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36 CHAPTER THIRTY-SIX “To will one thing”: Section 9

Faith must be our own

While parents can hope and pray that their children will share their faith, the passing of faith to the next generation is far from assured—the Bible describes the corruption of Eli’s sons, resulting in them being replaced by Samuel as his successor, and David’s descendants were not able to stay faithful to his covenant with God.

In the end, I believe that each person has to come to faith for him or herself. While we benefit from exposure to people of faith around us, we cannot simply “adopt” faith from any of them. Each of us must go through the struggle, which can include misunderstanding (e.g. many of the disciples), doubting (e.g. Thomas, among many others), trying to ignore (e.g. Augustine), or even fighting against (e.g. Paul) faith if it is ultimately going to be our own. For many historical and more recent people, that struggle takes place in the person’s 20’s and may not be resolved until the early 30’s. I don’t think it always happens then—sometimes it’s earlier and sometimes later—and sometimes it happens more than once in a lifetime. The timing of that decision can be variable and may come much earlier or much later—the issue is that faith becomes authentically one’s own.

Trying to hurry your children in making their faith decisions may hinder their ability to make it authentically (see the chapter on Seeds not growing in a day). Pray for them, ask them about it periodically, model it for them (and all) as authentically as you can, but don’t try to force them: God gave us free will to choose for ourselves and you need to do the same for your children

And it’s common and reasonable for each of us to need to keep checking and affirming our faith—I think it’s pretty common that when people leave the house or go to bed they check and recheck whether the doors are locked and the stove is off, even when they’re quite sure they did it already. It seems reasonable to check and recheck your faith, even when you can feel quite confident that you know it’s true.

Faith is central to Christianity

Based on the Bible, we don’t hope to be greeted with the words “Well done my good and successful servant” or “my good and intelligent servant.” It’s “my good and faithful servant” that we hope to hear. Faith is the metric by which you will be measured. I feel like the song, “Whatever,” by Steven Curtis Chapman makes the point in an accessible and tangible way.

After all, regarding Abraham, “And he believed in the Lord. And He counted it to him as righteousness.” And again, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

Despite the importance of the creeds, ultimately, faith isn’t an articulated set of beliefs, but belief and trust in God and surrendering to a relationship with him.

Keeping faith

A challenge of holding on to faith comes because, regarding anything miraculous, as time goes on we tend to ask ourselves whether it really happened and even doubt it did. So the Israelites were caught up in faith when the sea parted and when manna came down, but, as time went on, they had a tendency to forget and doubt, and so lost faith. I think that can easily happen to each of us. Almost like the movie Memento, we need to write things down for ourselves and hold existing writings close and read them regularly to remind ourselves of the truth. The Bible is the central part of those existing writings.

Alcoholics and other addicts have to fight their fights every day—all of us need to do that with whatever temptations and doubts we face. We need to fight those fights every minute of every day for the rest of our lives.

Again, prosperity can be another challenge to holding faith—while people can fall away because of hardship (e.g. C.S. Lewis lost faith as a boy because of the loss of his mother), I believe that more people lose their faith because of prosperity. When things go well, it is very easy to take credit and believe that it’s all due to your own work and that you can take care of everything on your own instead of giving the credit to God and believing that his work is still your salvation. The history of the Israelites attests that people tend to fall away from God during times of plenty and success, thinking that they can do it on their own and don’t need any help and that success is all due to their good work. The Israelites went through this cycle repeatedly: they would ask God for help, get help and get on firmer ground or in a better situation, then fall away from God, thinking that they were in good shape and/or just no longer thought about him, only to then accept the consequences of inappropriate self-confidence and choices, and finally, suffer decline which brought them back to calling on God. It seems the more successful you are the more likely you will take credit for it and not feel the need for God. So it seems to me that falling away from God is more likely to happen from success than from failure, when, as Hosea 5:15 points out, “in their misery they will earnestly seek me.” That also helps explain why Jesus said that it was difficult for the rich to make it to heaven, which surprised his hearers, who assumed that being rich was evidence of a good relationship with God.

Proverbs 30: 8-9 states this challenge, along with that of poverty:

give me neither poverty nor riches,

but give me only my daily bread.

Otherwise, I may have too much and disown you

and say, ‘Who is the LORD?’

Or I may become poor and steal,

and so dishonor the name of my God.

Jesus said he did not come to save the healthy but the sick. Just as riches can be an impediment to faith so can good behavior. People who get it right most of the time can feel justified in their own works and that they don’t need saving (remember the story of the Pharisee and the tax collector praying in the temple). But they do. It’s kind of an eternal “good is the enemy of great” (a quote from “Good to Great” by Jim Collins). As Jesus said, “whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” This is linked to the first of the beatitudes and the importance of confession as part of prayers discussed later. Unless you truly recognize the ways you’ve fallen short, you won’t feel the urgency or maybe even the need to be saved. The refrain lyrics of Charlie Peacock’s/DC Talk’s “In the Light” lament that.


Sections in this chapter:

  • The heart of faith
  • The core message and goal for your life
  • Seeking to trust God and become more like Jesus
  • Knowing your role—and God’s
  • Fruit of the Spirit
  • Managing our priorities and our praise
  • Identity, the creeds, and unity
  • The struggle of finding and holding faith
  • Faith must be our own
  • Levels and types of faith
  • Faith vs. knowledge
  • Faith and the Law and Works
  • Free Will and The Fall
  • Seeking to understand the Bible and life through discernment
  • The challenge of discernment
  • Handling different discernments
  • "Our own words"
  • Exploring challenging passages and ideas
  • The importance of prayer
  • Personal reflections
  • The importance of living the life
  • It’s not too late

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